What Comes First?

January 23, 2015

“Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He will do it.” – Psalm 37:5

Even more couples are choosing to live together before they get married, according to a new report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Between 2006 and 2010, nearly half of heterosexual women (48 percent) ages 15 to 44 said they were not married to their spouse or partner when they first lived with them, the report says.  That’s up from 43 percent in 2002, and 34 percent in 1995!  These are troubling statistics that show a deep-seated fear of commitment and trust in marriage.  But it is an understandable result of so many who were scarred by their own parents’ divorce, economic times, or a troubled home.

In addition, these findings are in line with a previous survey by the CDC that found that births to cohabiting couples make up nearly HALF of all births that occur outside of marriage. S0, why is this happening?  What do couples want? Well, couples living together want sex, companionship, and love. They’ll get sex and companionship, but they’ll never experience real love without commitment.  For without commitment, there is no real love.  Living together, by definition, is always looking for a way out.  No commitment.  No trust.  No real love.

God’s way is love and marriage commitment first, and then companionship, and sex. I guarantee you that sex and companionship will be far better because of your trust in Him and in your spouse.