With a divorce rate of 50%, there’s no denying that marriage is difficult. It’s easy to list all the challenges and difficulties facing spouses in a marriage, so what does God have to say on the subject? How can we experience the kind of marriage that God desires – the kind of marriage that not only lasts, but grows deeper and richer with each passing year.
Let me get this out the way from the beginning: marriage never turns out exactly like we planned. Life has a way of throwing out obstacles that can unsettle even the strongest couple. For this reason, it’s critical to be on the same page when it comes to your faith. This brings us to the primary principle when it comes to experiencing marriage the way God intended: Christians are commanded to marry a fellow believer.
Why is this so important? Because faith is central to one’s priorities and values; it’s essentially a huge part of who we are as a person. I’m not referring to the causal, cultural Christian, but a person who is committed to Christ. It’s obvious that when a Buddhist marries a Baptist or an Atheist marries a Christian, there will be conflicts at the core of their being. Over time, these core differences in priorities, belief, and world view will drive a wedge in that relationship – causing that couple who fell in love to drift apart.
If Christ is the ultimate priority in your life, then chose a spouse with the same priority. It won’t guarantee a successful marriage, but the odds for success are so much greater. THAT makes all the difference!