February 23, 2020

“…A man shall leave his father and mother and the two shall become one flesh…” – Mark 10:7-8

What’s the key to keeping a marriage intact? In today’s world of broken relationships, this is a question I’m asked often. Well, there are several Biblical references that offer insight into building a happy marriage, but there’s one key verse that is found both in the Old and New Testament: “…a man shall leave his father and mother and the two shall become one flesh..” (Mark 10:7-8). The theme is clear: We are to leave, cleave, and weave.

  1. Leave – A man shall leave his mother and father. In other words, each partner in the marriage is to prioritize their spouse over any other. This includes friends, parents, siblings, and even children. Our spouse should be our best friend. If you are married and find yourself closer to anyone other than your spouse, then your priorities are out of whack.
  2. Cleave – Cleave to each other. The word “cleave” means to join fast together, to glue, or cement. These definitions imply there will always be pressures to pull the marriage apart: things like busyness, work, family demands, financial concerns, health problems, infidelity, etc. And yet, marriage is to be a lifetime commitment. It should be something that even these very real pressures cannot pull apart.
  3. WeaveThe two shall become one flesh. Sexual intimacy and fulfillment is a by-product of a healthy marriage relationship. It symbolises how a husband and wife become one.

There’s no one-size fits all solution for the “perfect marriage.” However, God offers a blueprint in Scripture to build a foundation that can help marriages withstand even the toughest of storms.

Leave. Cleave. Weave. Three crucial components for a lasting marriage.