Is there someone you’ve been unwilling to forgive? Who is it that comes to mind? Now I assure you in some situations, you’re not going to be able to forgive people in your own strength. The hurt is too deep. We need to ask God to help us do what we cannot do. Ask for His supernatural power to begin to forgive that person!
Unwillingness to forgive is unwillingness to give control to God. Leave the getting even up to Him. How do you know when forgiveness is complete? For me, it’s when I’m able to see that person without having a knot in the pit of my stomach. There’s no sense of bitterness or resentment – just acceptance. Does that mean you have to trust them? Oh no – that’s for fools. But you choose to love them. It’s a great miracle that God brings about when we ask His help on forgiving others. And what freedom to finally let go.
If you’re really struggling in this area, remember, Jesus is our ultimate example. Nobody got the shaft like Jesus. He had no sin. We murdered Him with our sins on the cross. And while we were murdering Him, He said, “Father, forgive them.” If Jesus can forgive us for that, then through His power we can forgive others who have wronged us.