“Fear of the Lord” is a reverence for God. It is a willingness to realize, “I don’t have all the answers. I need God’s help in making this journey of life.” By trusting God enough to obey, we begin to learn Godly wisdom.
The first character trait of Godly wisdom is good behavior. In other words, it is someone who is willing to obey the commands of God. Then, the second character trait mentioned in James 3 verse 13 is gentleness of wisdom. Now, I know the world’s view of a person who is gentle is like a jellyfish – spineless, no backbone. They just go wherever the flow is. But, it means strength under control. It’s more like describing a wild horse that is brought into submission so that horse can be useful and strong in its purposes. That’s very different from a jellyfish. Gentleness describes a person with a lot of strength and passion, but they are willing to submit to the way God wants them to live their life.
Now, the way God gives you wisdom may not be the way you want it to happen. You may have to go through a lot of brokenness, a lot of difficulty. As a young Christian starting college, I asked God to give me wisdom, but what God did was not what I had in mind. It was literally like God knocked the legs out from under me. I didn’t like the loss of confidence, the internal of depression, the fears of an unknown future, but sometimes, that’s the only way God can begin to shape us and begin to work in our lives to where we have Godly wisdom.
Nobody exemplifies Godly wisdom like Jesus. So, what this tells us is, if you and I will choose to trust Jesus and follow Jesus and imitate Jesus in spirit and in character, then especially during trials, we will begin to experience Godly wisdom. So, look to Jesus, the perfect embodiment of Godly wisdom. It may not be easy, but Godly wisdom is worth it!