Jesus tells us that marriage is not just about the husband and wife relationship. A marriage is really a symbolic reminder of God’s relationship with the people of faith. That is why Jesus adds a most important aspect of loving our mate – that of exclusive loyalty in the love relationship in marriage.
There are many aspects we could look at when learning how we should love our mates and the importance of understanding them. The husband’s need for respect from his wife, and the wife’s need for romantic love from her husband; the importance of listening, time, forgiveness, compassion, kindness, controlling our tongues and not saying those hurtful things that we’re so prone to doing. You see, there are all kinds of things that we could talk about in loving our mates, but Jesus gave us the most basic explanation of what it means to love our spouses. Our spouses are to be our best friends. No mom or dad, sibling or friend – even a child – should be closer to you than your spouse! And not only that, we are to have a sense of commitment that really says in our heart and in our actions, “til death do us part.”