The best way to be a good parent is for dad to love mom, and mom to love dad. Nothing gives a child greater security than seeing that mom and dad really love one another. When love is modeled in front of the child on a daily basis, the child grows to understand how God wants families and people to love and respect one another. The child feels secure in his home and is emotionally able to receive instruction, wisdom, and discipline from his parents.
If you are divorced, you may be thinking, “Well, that leaves me out of the process.” Actually, there is an even greater message for divorced parents. Seek to never tear down your ex in front of your child. You may feel the comments are fully justified, but your criticism crushes the spirit of that child. That’s because every child has their identity wrapped up in both mom and dad. Remember, when you criticize your ex-spouse in front of the child, you are actually criticizing half of your child.
The best thing mom and dad can do is to love each other. But if that love has left, then it’s even more important that the child witness mom and dad demonstrating respect for one another.