In June of 2001, USA Today revealed the disturbing results of a poll about how twenty-somethings in America feel about living together. Sixty-two percent said living together before marriage is a good way to avoid divorce. And forty-three percent (almost half) said they would only marry someone if that person agreed to live together first. These are troubling statistics that show a deep-seated fear of commitment and trust in marriage. But it is an understandable result of so many who were scarred by their own parents’ divorce or troubled home.
Couples living together want sex, companionship, and love. They’ll get sex and companionship, but they’ll never experience real love without commitment. For without commitment, there is no real love. Living together, by definition, is always looking for a way out. No commitment. No trust. No real love.
God’s way is love and commitment first, and then companionship and sex. And that sex will be far better because of the trust in Him and in your spouse.