When youâ€™re in a serious relationship, donâ€™t overlook the importance of praying for Godâ€™s will, letting the Holy Spirit guide and direct you. Here are a few practical questions to consider as you pray and seek Godâ€™s will for this important decision in your life.
â€¢ Is she/he my best friend?
â€¢ Do we have similar beliefs and values? Does s/he help me grow closer to God? Are we unified on church and how we will grow spiritually together?
â€¢ How do my family and friends feel about the relationship?
â€¢ Am I willing â€“ eager – to make a lifetime commitment?
â€¢ Do I want this person to be a parent to my children? Do we agree on childraising and how careers will be dealt with?
â€¢ Does s/he have some unacceptable habits that I think I’ll be able to change someday? (Believe me, you won’t!)
â€¢ At the same time, do I recognize and accept his/her flaws and idiosyncrasies? (If not, itâ€™s not real love, itâ€™s infatuation.)
If you havenâ€™t been able to confidently answer these questions in a way to indicate that youâ€™ve chosen the right mate, maybe you need to slow down and give the relationship more time. Maybe youâ€™re headed toward choosing second best, rather than Godâ€™s best for your life, and you need to back off. Spend more time in prayer, asking God to reveal His plan for you.